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1 February 12

imfromdriftwood:

Shawnta Smith and Jasmine Cruz, “We’re From Brooklyn, NY & The Bronx, NY”

Ex-lovers talk about living together and the meaning of their house and relationship. (Closed captioning available here)

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Reblogged: imfromdriftwood

7 January 12
“ In fact, Gerstel and Sarkisian argue in their new book, Nuclear Family Values, Extended Family Lives, that it’s actually married people who have become increasingly isolated within the last generation, because they perceive their relationship with their partner to be the only one that matters. Gerstel and Sarkisian write that these “greedy” marriages have resulted in a “short-circuiting of community ties” within contemporary society. “Some people view marriage as the pillar of the community,” says Sarkisian. “But the way that society views marriage is detrimental to both singles and the married,” because we emphasize the value of the marital bond above all others.
— Janelle Nanos on the growing number of people who are single by choice.
7 September 11
relationship ed

I really like isabelthespy’s relationship advice to her younger self.

Reblogged: isabelthespy

20 April 11
I like looking at charts about sex more than actually having sex. Thanks, OKCupid!

I like looking at charts about sex more than actually having sex. Thanks, OKCupid!

23 February 11
Neko Case Can’t Get Laid!

Ann: “Worst of all worlds: Catcalls but not cunnilingus. One million sadfaces.” #storyofmylife

12 February 11
“ I just can’t believe that relationship trend pieces are still written as if men and women are two different species. Doll admonishes her single lady peers to “remember that men are not the enemy.” But she’s written an article that can’t seem to break out of that kind of adversarial framework. She simply took the “blame” for failed relationships off the men and placed it on women. When will we take blame out of the equation all together and recognize that all of us–men and women–are just trying to figure out what we want?
— Over at Feministing, I respond to the recent Village Voice cover story entitled “Dear Single Women of NYC: It’s Not Them, It’s You.”
2 February 11

LOVE.

24 January 11
The Sexual Cost of Female Success

An amazing response by Molly Lambert to this interview with the author of “Premarital Sex in America: How Young Americans Meet, Mate and Think About Marrying.” The new book (but old story) argues that men have all the power in relationships because 1) successful, educated women now outnumber successful, educated men and 2) women give it up too soon these days. That’s right—the power to withhold sex is seriously not what it used to be. And that, apparently, is hurting us all.

Lambert writes:

“It has everything to do with women, and nothing to do with men’s own obsession over whether they’re being beaten in life by alpha males. If women would just settle, they’d see how unhappy they really are with things like goals and standards and preferences. Yes, men are calling all the shots, but women are drinking them. And it’s drinking that leads women through the beaded curtain into the rainbow party of so much questionable behavior, behavior like having professional goals and still wanting your pussy ate.”

13 October 10
Following up on their blog on “The REAL Stuff White People Like” the folks at OKCupid present some interesting (and often hilarious) stats and charts about gay and straight sex and (self-reported) personalities.

Following up on their blog on “The REAL Stuff White People Like” the folks at OKCupid present some interesting (and often hilarious) stats and charts about gay and straight sex and (self-reported) personalities.

7 June 10
“ By any realistic measure, the Gores had a successful marriage—an accomplishment no one would deny them if one of them had died in a terrible accident last month. But because they are both still alive, and still determined to live in the best way for them, even if that way is “apart,” their marriage is deemed a failure. That’s too bad. Because letting go can be an act of love, too. And perhaps if we had a cultural narrative about marriage—or any kind of partnership—that also honored the relationships which end in letting go in life, the love stories that are journeys with destinations other than death, perhaps we would be less inclined to view two people taking steps in different directions, after some time together, as failures, and instead view them as people who know how to do love right.
— Melissa McEwan on Al and Tipper Gore’s separation.
Themed by Hunson. Originally by Josh